Friday, February 22, 2013

Love and Sex: An Erotica Author Shares Her Story

Desiree Holt had settled into her weekday afternoon groove—typing up a steamy sex scene for one of her erotica romance novels—when the phone rang. And rang. So, she broke away from fantasy to answer the demands of reality, or more specifically, whoever was calling.

"You're not interrupting me," Holt said, "but Logan and Rebecca are naked in bed, and they're really upset about it."

"I'll talk to you later, mom," her son replied.

"I love razzing my kids," says Holt, 76. Her son recently turned 50.

"They won't read anything I've written ... too much of an ick factor."

Desiree, as you may have guessed, is not her real name, but it's the one she's known by in her small town in Texas Hill Country and on her website, where she's pictured wearing a Texas-sized cross around her neck with a dark streak through her white hair.

Her mission: to empower women to feel sexually free, healthy, and fulfilled. Her inspiration: her late husband, who taught her how to feel that way.

"There's a little bit of him in every one of my heroes," Holt says, describing her husband as a "total alpha male, but so comfortable in his own skin that he could encourage my success and be proud of it."

"He got such pleasure out of the fact that I could take what was good about our relationship and translate it" for other women, she says. She promised him she would continue writing, and she relies a great deal on her own experience to show readers what's possible in a loving partnership—"how to be un-selfconscious and unrestricted and all of those wonderful things."

[See How to Make Love Last.]

Holt always wanted to write fiction, but didn't try it until retirement. She'd been too busy, raising kids and holding a variety of jobs—from running a public relations firm to working in the music business. At first, although her husband loved whatever she penned, not everyone else did.

After a slew of rejection letters, she considered a fellow writer's suggestion about an open submissions call from Ellora's Cave, which publishes romance reads on a scale from "Blush"—less explicit—to "Exotica"—more explicit—and, more recently, an imprint geared toward male readers. Among the publishers in this genre, Ellora's Cave pioneered the approach of releasing stories first by e-book and then in print, says Deb Werksman, editorial manager for Sourcebooks Casablanca, an independent book publisher based in Chicago. That's key, since this readership was the first to adopt e-books, she says. "And for obvious reasons, right? You don't have to worry about the covers of the books." Sourcebooks Casablanca, incidentally, publishes erotic romance, which Werksman defines, with a chuckle, as love stories where "it's as much about the emotion as it is about the orgasm."

[See G-Spot, Schmee-Spot. Will the New Discovery Affect Your Sex Life?]

The same could be said of Holt's stories, which now number more than 100 since the 2007 publication of her first piece, a Valentine's-themed tale. It was an appropriate start, since Holt's stories, at their heart, are about love—the risks people take to claim it and the circuitous paths they may find themselves on to get there. "It must have a happy ending," she says.

Intertwined with the love story, of course, is some rather graphic material. Holt's characters dabble in uncharted sexual territory, often trotting out bags of sex toys, experimenting with pain, pleasure, and power, and acting out the sexual fantasies they've been too timid to talk about. Holt is currently working on a piece she calls her "grittiest" yet; in the world of "BDSM,"which stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism, her submissive heroine learns about love with a dominant partner.


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Thursday, February 21, 2013

Understanding Migraine Headaches

Woman holding her head in pain

Just about everyone has headaches, but a migraine isn't just a bad headache. A migraine headache is a complex condition of the nervous system. It's often described as an intense pulsing or throbbing pain that usually occurs in one area of the head. Migraine attacks may cause severe, debilitating pain for hours to days, necessitating the need to retreat to a dark, quiet place.

A migraine headache is often accompanied by additional symptoms, such as nausea, vomiting, and sensitivity to light and sound. About one-third of affected people can predict the start of a migraine because they experience sensory warning symptoms (also called "aura"). These early-warning symptoms may include flashes of light, blind spots, zig-zag lines, temporary loss of vision, or tingling in the arm or leg.

What Causes Migraines?

Scientists still don't know for certain what causes migraines. Migraines could involve disturbances in nerve pathways and brain chemicals that affect blood vessels near the brain's surface. The blood vessels swell, sending pain to the brain stem, an area that processes pain information. A genetic predisposition to migraine may exist, as it often runs in families.

Recurring migraine attacks are caused by a number of different triggers. Recognizing and recording individual triggers in a headache diary or calendar may be useful in helping to prevent future attacks.

[See 5 Classes of Drugs Used to Treat Migraines.]

How Can I Treat My Migraine Headache?

There is no cure for migraine. There are two ways to approach treating migraine with medicine. You can take medicine during attacks to relieve symptoms (acute treatment), or you can take medicine daily to prevent or reduce attacks and lessen the intensity of the pain (preventive treatment).

Acute treatment consists of over-the-counter pain relievers (or analgesics), such as acetaminophen, aspirin, and ibuprofen. If these products don't work for you, your doctor may prescribe medication that includes a stronger analgesic and/or a drug that acts more specifically on the cause of migraines. These migraine-specific treatments may include drugs from the "triptan" class (such as sumatriptan, almotriptan, or zolmitriptan), or "ergot-type" products such as dihydroergotamine nasal spray. If needed, drugs for nausea and vomiting may also be prescribed. The sooner these treatments are administered, the more effective they are.

[See Top Recommended Nausea Remedies]

If you have frequent migraine attacks, if your attacks don't respond consistently to migraine-specific treatments, or if acute medications are ineffective or can't be used because of other medical problems, preventive treatment may be prescribed. Certain drugs originally developed for epilepsy, depression, or high blood pressure have been shown to be effective in preventing migraine attacks. Botulinum toxin A, which is injected into muscles in the head and neck, has also been shown to be effective in prevention of chronic migraine.

What Are Rebound Headaches?

Rebound headaches (or medication-overuse headaches) are caused by frequent use of headache medication. They are also the most common cause of progression from episodic migraine (where attacks occur occasionally or infrequently) to chronic migraine (where attacks occur more frequently or regularly).

If you use acute over-the-counter and prescription drugs too often (more than two or three days per week), it can create a headache-worsening pattern that results in more headaches and the need to take more medicine. This pattern is harmful, and while in this cycle, other treatments often don't work. The only way to break this cycle is to stop the pattern of overuse, which should be done under a doctor's care.

[See How to Find the Right Doctor.]

Also, overuse of certain anti-inflammatory drugs, such as ibuprofen or naproxen sodium, may cause stomach irritation and even ulcers. Excessive use of acetaminophen may increase the risk of liver problems in certain people.


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Older Motorcyclists More Likely to be Hospitalized, Severely Injured

Study: Motorcyclists Over 60 are Most at Risk of Being Severely Injured From Crashes

The baby boomers are aging, which means more and more of them are riding off into the sunset on their Harleys. Only 10 percent of motorcyclists were over age 50 in 1990, but 25 percent of them were over 50 in 2003, according to a study published yesterday in Injury Prevention. But what happens if these older riders skid out? They're more likely to be badly hurt. Researchers analyzed injury data from between 2001 and 2008, and found that bikers over the age of 60 were three times more likely to be hospitalized for their motorcycle injuries compared to bikers in their 20s and 30s, reports the BBC. They were also two and a half times more likely to be seriously injured. "The greater severity of injuries among older adults may be due to the physiological changes that occur as the body ages, bone strength decreases, fat distribution may change and there is a decrease in the elasticity of the chest wall," the study authors said. Other possible risk factors for older bikers may be delayed reaction time, worsening vision, and altered balance, BBC reports.

Sexy Tips from a Septuagenarian

Desiree Holt had settled into her weekday afternoon groove—typing up a steamy sex scene for one of her erotica romance novels—when the phone rang. And rang. So, she broke away from fantasy to answer the demands of reality, or more specifically, whoever was calling.

"You're not interrupting me," Holt said, "but Logan and Rebecca are naked in bed, and they're really upset about it."

"I'll talk to you later, mom," her son replied.

"I love razzing my kids," says Holt, 76. Her son recently turned 50.

"They won't read anything I've written ... too much of an ick factor."

Desiree, as you may have guessed, is not her real name, but it's the one she's known by in her small town in Texas Hill Country and on her website, where she's pictured wearing a Texas-sized cross around her neck with a dark streak through her white hair.

Her mission: to empower women to feel sexually free, healthy, and fulfilled. Her inspiration: her late husband, who taught her how to feel that way. [Read more: Sexy Tips from a Septuagenarian]

Mind Your Body

Mind your body! That sounds like it could be a line in a Beyoncé song, writes U.S. News blogger David Katz. In fact, for all I know, it is a line in a Beyoncé song, and maybe she sang it during the Super Bowl 2013 halftime show.

Having the standard male issue priorities, I confess to being distracted by the black leather corset; I might have missed some of the lyrics. But I digress. So, before I get myself into trouble, let's assume Beyoncé said it, or should have, and move on.

Mind your body, because your brain is at stake.

We have long known that the more common, dire, and dreaded threats to our minds—Alzheimer's disease in particular—have a great deal to do with overall health status below the neck. Study after study after study after study that has shown an elimination of up to 80 percent of all chronic disease with the application of lifestyle as medicine has NOT carved out an exception for Alzheimer's, or dementia in general.

The evidence that we can alter gene expression with the power of lifestyle almost certainly pertains to Alzheimer's as it does to cancer. By minding our bodies, we can mind our minds, too. We can best mind both by minding the short list of what matters most to health: eating well, being active, managing our weight by virtue of these first two, and avoiding tobacco. [Read more: Mind Your Body]

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Wednesday, February 20, 2013

$100 Worth of Health, Responsibility, and Power

There is an old saw, which you doubtless know as well as I, about a $100 bill. The bill comes to you at first with just a tiny bit torn out of one corner. If you are reasonable, you accept it as the $100 bill it is, and barely take any notice of the insignificant missing fragment.

Then it comes to you with two such bits missing, and it's still of no consequence. Then three. And so on.

At some point of course, if this keeps up long enough, there simply is no bill left at all. The question is: At what point between one tiny missing fragment and the bill torn away to nothing do you stop accepting the money at face value?

The point of this adage, which we all seem inclined to share with one another, is obviously not limited to $100 bills. It's about the fact that overwhelmingly, this world of ours is not an either/or world; it's a world in which reasonable people have to choose where to draw reasonable lines. And the fact that deciding just where to do so can be tough.

We presumably know what the adage means when we tell it, otherwise why would we bother? But then we go on to forget all about it. Either every random citizen has a right to carry a high-capacity assault weapon or the Second Amendment is under assault. Either/or.

Just as seemingly everyone wanting to lose weight signs up for the "as fast as possible" program, forgetting entirely about the tortoise and the hare, and what that fable was intended to mean. We all know that "if it sounds too good to be true, it almost certainly is"—but we forget that one too, at the most inopportune moments.

The $100 bill has, if we bother to think about it, direct relevance to one of the more vexing debates in modern health promotion: Is health promotion and weight control all about the environment, or is it all about personal responsibility? We might get somewhere with this if we ante up that $100 from the archives of folksy wisdom.

[See Is Obesity Cultural?]

Let's start with the extremes. At one end, representing the $100 bill in pristine condition, we have a Stone Age environment, where tobacco doesn't exist, all food comes direct from nature, and physical activity every day is necessary for survival. Like the bill with no missing bit, this is an easy call. Everyone will eat "well," or at least as nature intended; everyone will be active; no one will smoke. To the extent that good use of feet (routine physical activity), forks (a healthful diet), and fingers (no cigarettes!) represent adequate personal responsibility, everyone will have it.

At the other end of the spectrum—represented, perhaps, by the movie WALL-E—there are simply no good choices left to make. Physical activity has been totally banished from the culture, and the only foods accessible to anyone are junk foods. In such a world, personal responsibility for eating well and being active would be entirely irrelevant. Neither would be possible, and nobody would manage it—no matter how innately responsible.

[See Why We're So Fat: What's Behind the Latest Obesity Rates]

I trust you see where this is going. Where, on the spectrum from "it's impossible not to eat well and be active" to "it's impossible to eat well and be active" does personal responsibility start, and stop, mattering?

Starting with a pristine native environment, we might first introduce some labor-saving technology. No one is obligated to use it, of course, and there is still ample opportunity to be active. Personal responsibility still carries the day.

Then let's introduce some very tasty fast food. And then some suburban sprawl. And not just tobacco, but very clever tobacco advertising. And then, more labor-saving technology. And then let's transition everyone to long days of almost entirely sedentary work. And then let's build a huge advertising industry devoted to promoting the uptake of all the stuff we are now selling: food designed to be irresistibly tasty, and technology designed to do everything muscles once did.

Then let's distort everyone's understanding of what is truly healthy with marketing and media hype. Then let's make the least nutritious foods the least expensive, and market them the most. And let's engage scientists and cutting-edge technology to design foods people can't stop eating. And then let's keep this all going so children are born into it, and grow up not knowing any other kind of world. And then ...

[See What are the Worst Menu Choices in America?]

If we did keep going this way, eventually we would wind up with that world where the only food that existed was highly processed junk, and making any other choice would be impossible. And we would wind up with a world where physical activity was so irrevocably exiled from our daily routine and experience that no one would even remember what it was.

Were we to reach that point, any argument about personal responsibility would be absurd. Admittedly, we are not there. But objectively, we are closer to that end of the spectrum than the other.

I can't say exactly at what point between a Stone Age environment, where there is no choice but to eat naturally and be active, and an exaggerated modern world, in which the opportunities to do either no longer exist, the role of personal responsibility becomes moot. I rather doubt you can either. For now, all we need to agree on is that this scenario is like the $100 bill, that there is a line crossed somewhere. We needn't decide exactly where that line is to know there must be one.

Once we acknowledge there is a line, what we are really saying is this: Personal responsibility matters, and can compensate for environmental challenges up to some point. Beyond that point, the average human endowment of personal responsibility is no longer enough to carry the day. Much beyond the point, even the most supreme examples among us may no longer be up to the task.

[See Finding Support For Your Health Goals]

Which invites consideration of another matter: the average endowment of personal responsibility. For one thing, we have no indication it has changed over the years during which epidemic obesity and diabetes have developed. There is no documented decline in personal responsibility to account for deteriorating use of forks, and degenerating use of feet. In contrast, the changes to our environment are very well documented.

Since a decisive majority of our population eats poorly, is inactive, and has either weight or health problems if not both to show for it, we might simply stipulate that the average human endowment of personal responsibility simply isn't enough. We might assert it—but we'd be presumptuous fools to do so—because average is the best measure we have of what's reasonable and manageable for the lot of us.

After all, from the perspective of a gorilla, all humans are weaklings. From the perspective of a horse, no human can run. From that of a dolphin, no human can swim. From that of a kangaroo, it's not just white guys who can't jump. It's what humans actually can do that defines what humans should be able to do.

Nor need we go quite so far as to cross the divide between species. From the perspective of Einstein and Newton, the lot of us are dummies. From the perspective of Michael Phelps, we can't swim, and from that of Usain Bolt, we can't run.

In spite of it all, when it comes to eating well and staying active, I am elite. Not because I'm a special person, but because I have a special skill set, and expertise. It is, after all, what my career is about. So while I do eat well, exercise daily, and am fit and healthy and lean, am I really entitled to assert that everyone else should be able to do the same? That's a bit like Stephen Hawking telling me I really should just keep up when the conversation turns to theoretical astrophysics.

We all seem to embrace the pop culture wisdom that with great power, comes great responsibility. It's past time to embrace the corollary: To take responsibility, we must be suitably empowered.

How much is suitable? Hard to say—but asking the question is a good start. And a good initial answer might be: enough to meet average needs.

Right now, a landslide majority of the total national population is overweight or obese. Globally, the percentage of us subject to chronic disease is stunningly high already, and rising steadily. How do those dodging these bullets presume to blame the majority for being struck by them? Those who survived the Titanic might just as well blame those who drowned.

That is the nature of human experience: Inevitably, it's a bell curve. Some, through a combination of native gifts and luck, do far better than average. Some, alas, do worse. But the average experience is exactly that: the most likely thing to happen to most of us under given circumstances.

Now, don't go thinking I am trying to exonerate us of our responsibilities for our own health. Not at all. What I do with my feet and my fork is up to me, and what you do is up to you. Even with both a will for health, and a way to it– we still have to walk there. We should not expect to be carried.

Yes, we must share in the responsibility. Bolt has to run; Phelps has to swim; Hawking needs to think.

We, too, must take responsibility—but can be expected to do so only to the extent we've got the power.

[See 20 Simple Ways to Improve Your Health in 2013]

Hungry for more? Write to eatandrun@usnews.com with your questions, concerns, and feedback.

David L. Katz, MD, MPH, FACPM, FACP, is a specialist in internal medicine and preventive medicine, with particular expertise in nutrition, weight management, and chronic-disease prevention. He is the founding director of Yale University's Prevention Research Center, and principal inventor of the NuVal nutrition guidance system. Katz was named editor-in-chief of Childhood Obesity in 2011, and is president-elect of the American College of Lifestyle Medicine.


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